Why are men so afraid of femm. guys?

i personally like femme guys. i'm kinda femme, but not too much. and i like them a little more feminine than me, but not someone who wants to be a woman. but someone who's not like...uber masculine. and i don't want a feminine guy that looks masculine either. i want a guy with tiny little wrists and arms, slim with no abs really, just slim. stuff like that. i'm kinda young, and so a virgin, but i still know who i would like to have with. and that's not a masculine man.